Pink Is The New Black


Rose-coloured glasses have a bad rep. Personally, I'm rather fond of pink, particularly if it comes in the shape of a Kir Royale. But I digress. If you want to be truly fabulous, try putting on a pair of rose-coloured glasses of Jackie O proportions. Simply put, that means looking upon yourself kindly. I'm not advocating self-delusion, but a kind of self-awareness that is generous in its honesty, not self-destructive. Give yourself a break and others will too. Fabulousness comes from knowing - as L'Oreal so succinctly puts it - you're worth it. Here comes the science bit ... concentrate!

Few of us are in any real danger of an imminent ego-explosion. For the most part, the great women I know are self-deprecating to an extreme and seem totally unwilling to recognise their own wonderful qualities. It may be a girl thing, but it's not helping. It's time to embrace a new way of looking at ourselves that celebrates who we are and allows us to be our authentic, fabulous selves. Anything less is just holding us back.
According to Miranda Holden, author of Boundless Love, your view of your own self-worth is shaping your whole life. She says, "Who you think you are determines every decision you make and everything that you experience. Who you think you are unconsciously determines what you believe you deserve, and therefore how much happiness, success, love, ease, grace and goodness you can have. Who you think you are determines how you think, how you feel, what you see, what you gravitate towards and what gravitates towards you. Few people see themselves accurately. Cleave to your true identity."
To really take this on board, start listening to how you talk to yourself, noticing just how unkind and unhelpful that inner voice can be. Apart from telling it to take a hike, begin to consciously look for the things you like about yourself. This may feel shockingly unnatural, but persevere. Your fabulousness depends on it!

The painful truth about life is that you get what you think you deserve - nothing more, nothing less. If your opinion of yourself is low and you're waiting for someone to come along and realise how great you are, make sure you have a packed lunch, because you're in for a very long wait. Once you accept that truth, you can make work it to your advantage. Pain may be inevitable, but suffering is optional. If you can find things to love about yourself, other people will too. Your life could get a whole lot better with just that little shift.

So, just for today, let's not go for the burn. Let's look for reasons to feel fabulous about ourselves, so others can start to see just how fabulous we are. Slap on those rose-coloured glasses with style and remember - pink is the new black.

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All material © 2005 Alison Porter. No article may be reproduced in full or in part without the express permission of the author. (Originally posted 20 Nov 05)